Becoming Unstuck

What to do when you don’t know what to do. Many people feel stuck, which in turn, perpetuates the problem keeping them stuck.

Usually caused by fear of the future, most people get into analysis paralysis and avoid making a decision, only to have perfection ruin any forward motion due to self judgment. Fear of choosing poorly is driven by self defeating thoughts like: What if I fail? or What will people think? Often the “imposter syndrome“ kicks in to ask the daunting question, “Who am I to think I can accomplish that?”

The solution is usually found in the very problem in which you are struggling. Yet, clarity is never found in a negative emotional state.

Here is a quick 3-step check-in you can do to gain clarity and the get moving:

1. Control your thoughts. Don’t get stuck in self-doubt or feeling sorry for yourself. The best way to beat indecision is to build momentum. No hesitation, just motion; move and move now.

2. Pick something. Very few choices in life are make-or-break decisions. It may be hard to believe, but sometimes there is no wrong choice. You simply need to stay in action. Clarity will eventually come and to NOT choose is in itself a choice. Remember, most things can be undone or redone. You’ll gain confidence through positive action, no matter how small.

3. Accept responsibility. The blame game is for people too scared to take control of their life. You will find yourself doing it for a day, maybe two, but then get busy, move on and don’t fall into the pit of self-pity. If you fail, own it and move on… You’ll be in great company. Some of the most successful CEO’s, leaders, athletes and mentors have failed countless times on their path to success.

As an example:
While in between jobs, my client drove for ride-sharing programs like Uber to stay busy and meet people. He surprised himself by finding so much joy from being of service to others and wasn’t constantly dwelling on his current state of problems.

See my blog on journaling to change your mental state and take the first step in action toward clarity today.

If you’re still finding yourself stuck, paralyzed in fear or just struggling with the clarity in confusion, reach out to me for a chat.

To your good mental health,

~Noel McDermott

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