I’d like to ask you a question. Do you think you’re beautiful?
If you said no or avoided my question, you’re not alone. According to a global study, only 4 per cent of women think they’re beautiful. This study encompassed self-esteem, body confidence, and body image. Why is this so important? It’s important because feeling comfortable in our own skin, from a true place of self-acceptance, gives us the power and freedom to be unapologetically who we really are and grow from that place.
“People often say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing you are the beholder.”
Our bodies are the vehicles that carry us through our lives. That said, why wouldn’t we do ourselves the kindness of loving and nurturing that vessel? But how, you may ask. Here are my top 4 tips for realizing your own beauty and the power that comes with it.
- I’ve written about, journaling can be an enlightening and therapeutic way to honor and explore ourselves. Putting pen to paper is a powerful signal that we are ready for something new. Start your journaling by listening several (10-20) things you love about your body. This may be difficult at first, but stick with it. If you’re having trouble, think of all the ways your body allows you to do the things you love. For example “I love my legs, because they allow me to walk my puppy.” Write out each statement 10 times in your journal, and as you do, feel it to be so in your heart.
2. Be aware of your language and only treat yourself the way you would a dear friend. This practice will likely be an eye-opener into the way we talk to ourselves. If it’s not how you’d want someone to speak to your closest friend, it’s not something you should say to yourself. Remove the word “hate” when describing any of your attributes and challenge yourself to reword your speech. For example: “I hate my hair” can turn into “I’m grateful my hair is so unique. There’s never a dull moment!”
3. This next step is challenging, but I know you can do it. Commit to this practice every day for at least 20 days. Stand in front of your mirror and thank each part of your body for what it provides to you. Ending with “I love you.” For example “Thank you eyes, for it is through you I am able to see all the beauty that surrounds me. I love you.” You can rephrase the same things you wrote about in your journal and add new ones now that you’re looking in the mirror. Pay attention to what you notice that you may not have before. And be aware of negativity creeping in.
4. Integrate these practices in your daily life for at least 20 days and watch what unfolds. Be aware of how you feel throughout your day, for example the way you carry yourself. Explore the new things that come up after you’ve been practicing loving your body for a few days or weeks. Soak in the gratitude for these new realizations.
Throughout this practice, be sure to hold yourself accountable for the daily tasks while also letting yourself off the hook for having a difficult time completing the them, especially at the beginning. Be aware of how the shifts are making you feel. Are you standing up straighter to honor your spine, which gives you mobility and the beautiful gift of walking, running, dancing?
And remember, beauty resides not only in our appearance, but in every cell of our bodies. Our gratitude in the way we see ourselves physically will give us the graceful power to honor our bodies, ourselves, and our journey. From this place of power, anything is possible.
If you have trauma around this topic or find it extremely difficult to utilize these practices, please reach out for further assistance by messaging, Noel@NoelMcDermott.net. We are here to provide love and support.